Turning Off Point

Have you ever experienced being courted but suddenly the guy just stopped courting you?

I was chatting with one of my girlfriends, Tin and she was a bit 'pissed off'. It's a long story, the guy trying to befriend her again even after last year this guy courted her then suddenly just stopped. And Tin, she thought that it's "this is it" moment for her (she had no bf for 3 years after her first). She did have a bf during college but they broke off because of a religious something misunderstanding, the praising-praising, singing-singing, sharing-sharing thingie that I got also involved in because Christian Luanzon (varsity player was a member also). Unfortunately, we had the wrong reason in joining the group and we aren't saints.

Alrigth, the reason why I am writing this is that I am just curious why guys just suddenly stop. I asked my bf about it after we had dinner with Jaja. Jaja is one of my friends. Marco courted her for quite a long time but then he just stopped. And until we graduated college we never knew why. Jaja and Marco weren't friends during our university days or at least they don't talk with each other anymore and Jaja was left hanging with a big question mark up above her head. But jaja is now happy with his bf, Stanley.

After asking my bf and my guy colleague, they both gave the same answer: that maybe at one point, the guy got turned off on something. I asked jb, my colleague what are these possible TO things. He said, he doesn't like girls with putok or smell. haha i think everyone of us will mind a smelly partner (if a partner cant even take care of her/himself like hygiene, can he/she take care of the relationship?) Maybe it's different with some guys on the things that turns them off, but do you think it's unfair with the girl, specially if the girl likes this guy, too?

Courting.. you like a girl, a girl that you are attracted to. Ok, I really hate it when love really starts with physical attraction. But what can I do? That's how love starts. You get attracted, you court this girl then something turned the guy off then he stops courting. Girl left confused? Do you think it was really love after all? ok, we are just talking about courting, no love yet. coz love grows after you get attracted. haha am i confusing? all i just want to say is it's so unfair. Why not tell the girl the problem? But hmmm.. thinking about that, how can a guy tell it? and can the girl accept it as a constructive criticism (lack of better term, sorry). Or should the girl confront the guy to know where she went wrong. (but girls, remember, never change yourself for the wrong reasons, what am i saying?)

Anyway, girls get turned off, too. so they basted the guy or they turn the guy down. Sigh..

Now, it made me think if this has happened to me? I really can't remember. Anyway, being turned down or being left hanging, for me, gives the person a better opportunity to think, ponder what went wrong and improve yourself right? Maybe we just have to move on after a series of basteds and enjoy whatever we have. Maybe the right guy is just under your nose... lurking behind your booger. hahaha

sigh.. it's weekend again. im off to attend a bridal shower this evening - a lingirie party !